March 6, 2008
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Women and potential choosing of men
Before I start the post, for those of you who know what happened during my day in Texas, I would like to let you know that it’s all green. A funnier way to say it would be to say that the people with the guns did not have a problem with me.
I was talking with a friend of mine, Sylvia, the other day, and she brought up this guy friend that she had. She has known him for years. They carpooled to work, and regularly ate lunch together. So, I ask what I normally do when a girl talks about a guy that she spends her time with: “Is he cute?” Then I follow it up with the question of, “Why don’t you date him?” Women regularly give the dumbest answers in this case.
Don’t get me wrong. Sometimes I hear “He’s great in small doses,” or, “He’s dating someone already.” Those are very good responses. However, most of the time, I hear something like “I don’t want to ruin the friendship.” Ladies, this is by far one of the dumbest answers that I normally hear. It’s especially frustrating for a guy to be on the receiving end of it. It’s like saying:
“Hey, although I love spending most of my time with you, sharing stories, and eating with you, I would rather go out and try to meet random guys to fill the void that you pretty much fill already. I mean, yes, as soon as a guy breaks my heart, I will come running to you to talk about it. And yes, while I am ‘single’ I have you participate in all the things that I would have a boyfriend do. However, I value our friendship, but I just want someone who has the potential to provide what you do, so long as it is not you.”
Even worse is the fact that you go out with guys that possess nowhere near the qualities of the guy you are friends with, but you would rather shut him down than give it a chance. That drives us nuts. Let me put is this way: If your only reason for not dating a guy is so that you do not ruin the friendship, and the friendship has been more than 3 years, during which you do things that you would have a boyfriend do, you have no reason to turn him down.
Black 6, out.
Comments (3)
I never thought of it that way. Good read.
@TacoDelRio -
It’s insane, but it’s completely true. I highly suggest you present this logic teh next time you see or hear it. Now, if it’s being used on you, just be apathetic when you state it. Don’t act like you actually care that the girl is doing this.
Hi, You should write a book. Now what I heard was the, “You are a great girl but you are just too good for me you deserve better.” Like hello is that not my decision to make? grr By the way have you ever been to London? Smiles, Sharon